Admiration in Others

I don't know if you ever think about this, or if it's just me, but people go through a whole lot. There are things you don't even see or may ever hear about! Especially right now, the thought comes up randomly, but I somehow only think about it for a millisecond and then I'm chillin'.

It is so easy to judge a person for really small things without understanding the processes that had to have happened for a person to get to a certain point. You might literally be in an argument with someone and they are wacking you with all the words in the f'ing dictionary and thesaurus, but there is more that is happening in one's mind that you don't even know!

I think miscommunication is soooooo easy to happen between 2 people when thoughts involving vulnerabilities and feeling like you have to act/be a certain way come into play. These thoughts may have come from a past negative experience, expectations that were placed (by either you or someone else) at a particular point in your life, or a life lesson that you picked up along the way.

NOW ON TOP OF THAT, imagine you are having a really emotional conversation with someone. You hold different parts to your identity such as income status, being a parent/non-parent, being a student/non-student, being first-generation/not even know what that means, and SO MUCH MORE. There are layers among layers and then layers within those layers that intertwine with other layers.. no one's experiences can ever be the same. It is impossible for one to place expectations of how you should act all the time when you are constantly trying to do what you think is best. And that is the same thing (but now that I am typing this) or similar thing THAT SOMEONE ELSE IS GOING THROUGH.

It can become so easy to just think you know what is best, or for someone else to think they know best. And that's just not it, chief.

For this reason, I think it is important to acknowledge that everyone might experience similar emotions, but they will not happen in the same way as what you are going through. AND IRONICALLY, you might experience something completely different than someone else. Can you blame them for thinking the way they do? NO.

We all go through shit sometimes, and it might be hard to (especially now so thanks rona). But we are all trying our best to balance so many factors at play WHEN WE MIGHT NOT EVEN BE THINKING ABOUT THESE THINGS ALL AT ONCE. So, I'm not saying that evil should always be accepted. Like if there is evil in the world, thoughts of hurting others are not the way to go, k! I'm saying that we should give others some slack for not thinking the way that we do and give ourselves some grace for not being able to understand someone else fully. We are all going through something. A lot of things are happening. But we are going through the whole life thing together somehow, and that is admirable!